Our Shared Ministry
The Unitarian Universalist theologian Rebecca Parker, tells
us that churches are in the business of doing four things. Equally important
and interwoven, these four things constitute the mission of liberal religion.
First, we come together to resist systems of oppression and exploitation that
divide peoples and separate all of humanity from the earth. Second, we come
together to embody the spirit of covenant, the power of people freely joining
in a community to share their resources for the benefit of all. Third, we come
together to engage in rituals that nurture our spiritual and psychological
well-being. And finally, we come together to deepen and broaden our minds so we
might better understand our world and our place in it.
You
will be hearing much more about these four pieces of our mission in the future.
But I bring them up to give a framework for what we are talking about today,
“Our Shared Ministry.” Today we are celebrating the mutual work of building
this amazing community, this Fellowship, this church. Let’s unpack that word ministry for a minute. I
can start with myself. I am a minister. I preach and teach a few classes and do
pastoral care. I attend lots of meetings. I am a minister. What I do is tend to
the ministry of a religious community. This religious community. What I do is
ministry, not by virtue of my title or position, but by virtue of being in
community with you all. My ministry is bound up with yours.
You
see, building a community, sharing ourselves with one another is one huge piece
of what it means to be a church. Sharing ourselves and making a place, a home
together, is ministry, and it is a ministry that we all share in together. As I
described the second piece of our mission, we come together to embody the
spirit of covenant, the power of people freely joining in a community to share
their resources for the benefit of all. I am a minister, but I cannot share on
my own. Sharing is something that we do together, it’s a piece of ministry that
is by definition relational.
We share this ministry of building a community. It takes a
good number of different things, kindness, money, food, a building, time. We
all contribute to the effort.
In preparation for this sermon I did a survey of a handful
of our members who I know contribute an extraordinary amount of time and energy
to support the fellowship. I was especially interested in talking to these
people because much of what they do is in an unofficial role and often goes
unrecognized by our wider community. I want to share with you some of their
tremendous activity that helps our Fellowship. But equally important, are their
reflections on why they do what they do. They serve today both as inspiration,
and as a guide to how we might encourage our shared ministry into the future.
Mark
Dimond checks the candles and oil lamp in the chalice, maintains the window
treatments that keep us from roasting on sunny days, organizes the ushers to
collect the offering, creates and changes the sign and banner out front, and
helps put away the tables and tents, and creates boxes and bookmarks that
remind us of our values. EVERY WEEK. And once each month he helps with food
preparation for the homeless and goes to the shelter to distribute the food.
His
dear wife Riva, the other pea in this pod, is just as busy. Riva brings
cookies, organizes and supports the greeters, helps set up and break down the
welcome table, helps prepare and clean up salad Sundays, leads a covenant group
and the monthly discussion group at Laguna Woods, organizes a monthly meal at
the homeless shelter, and she occasionally calls our members that we haven’t
seen in a while. All of that effort comes out of one household. And that
doesn’t even touch on the tremendous contributions that Rachel, Riva’s
daughter, and Brian, their son in law, make to the Fellowship. Thank you Mark
and Riva
Jack
and Jean Paris come early every Sunday to the Fellowship. They used to set up
tables, but now they are preempted by Paul, who gets here even earlier. But
they always stay to help take the tables down. Jean takes the boxes and Jack
takes the tables. She says, and I have witnessed, “He is a workhorse. He can’t
be stopped.” Jean always brings two or three items when there is a salad Sunday
and helps set up food. And they sing every week in the choir. Jean helps edit
the Sealight and has done so since 2005. And before the format changed, Jean
played a major role in organizing the Circle Suppers every month. Perhaps the
contribution they get the most thanks for though, is bringing their delightful
granddaughter, Ava with them. Thank you Jack and Jean.
Jim
Pemberton is probably the quietest do-gooder I know. I’m amazed he even let me
have this conversation with him. He started his work on our building in 1974,
when he, Kurt, and Jim Sweeney had to go down to the basement to relight the
furnace on a regular basis. Since that time he has been a faithful steward of
this beloved building. As a taste of what that means, last weekend, he came to
change a toilet seat in the bathroom. Talk about a thankless job. Fortunately
he went downstairs to check on another project. There he found that our
basement was flooded with a couple of inches of water, and more was coming in
from the neighbor’s sprinkler. He got the sprinkler shut off, and spent three
hours squeegeeing and moping the floor, so that our kids would have a classroom
the next morning. On top of regular maintenance our building requires, this is
the sort of emergency he has been attending to since 1974. Thank you Jim.
Paul
Bogdan is a relative newby to our efforts to maintain our building. But his
efforts have been just as thorough and sincere. Paul comes to the church every
Sunday morning at 8:45. He promptly begins setting up tables and tents for the
greeters and social action committee. He brings out chairs for those folks to
sit on, and he brings the nametags, our nametags, to hang on the front door so
we can find them. But it’s not just Sundays. He also comes by twice each week
to sweep up leaves and pick up trash. Since he lives very close by, he just
keeps and eye on the building while the rest of us aren’t here to. Thank you
Paul.
Amy
Lemp offers a service for our congregation that many, I dare say most of you,
don’t even know exists. For the past couple of years, Amy has organized our
youth along with the youth of neighboring congregations to go on all sorts of
fun adventures like laser tag, miniature golf, trampolining, bowling, and
improv comedy. They have also had game nights. She also organized the programs
that we all enjoyed at the church retreat two weeks ago. Years ago, I want to
say 13 years ago, just after joining our Fellowship, which she found in the
Yellow Pages. Amy thought we could
benefit from an online presence. So she built and still manages our website. Thank
you Amy.
Marta
is a helper of a different variety. I marvel at her dedication to recycling.
She’s often picking through the trash cans that the rest of us can’t seem to
figure out. But more than recycling, she is always there to do the odd job.
Maybe it is making food, or help with a computer, or moving something. Marta
likes doing a variety of different things and is always eager to do what she
can. Thank you Marta.
And
the final person I talked to about helping was Colleen Schulkee. Colleen cooks
homemade food every month for our meal at the homeless center. She cooks the
food and serves the food with her children. And I want to stress, the homemade
part of the story. As a family, they peel and cook real mashed potatoes to
serve 70 people. Thank you Colleen.
Like
I said earlier, more than understanding exactly what all these wonderful people
do, I wanted to better understand why they do them, and how we can be
supportive. That’s what was remarkable about talking to Colleen. She said she
has just always volunteered in some way. It started in college, helping with
wrap groups on birth control at the free clinic in Laguna Beach. And she has
helped hold pre-mature babies. She helped tutor kids with reading. She’s a
great reminder that cultivating generosity is a lifestyle. It’s just something
you do once or twice.
The
other thing that Colleen and I talked about was doing this work with her children.
She’s glad to teach them, not about the value of helping people, but to be
accepting of everyone, even the folks that they have gotten to know at the
homeless shelter. She’s glad for that opportunity to teach her kids and she’s
proud of how well they engage people whose life is very different from anything
they have ever known. When we volunteer we serve as a model for our children,
and everyone else around us.
But
we aren’t just teaching our kids when we volunteer, we can also teach ourselves
something new. Yes, many of us volunteer because we have a particular skill.
But volunteering can also be an opportunity to try something completely new.
That’s part of why Marta enjoys the great variety of different things. And Amy
Lemp built our website, not because she was a pro, but because she had just put
one together for the twins club that she was a part of. Many, I dare say most
of our volunteer efforts are the fruit of good-will and hard work, not
professional expertise. Larger churches and the corporations that most of us
are used to dealing with, have highly trained staff to execute every operation.
Our volunteers do the best job they can. The final product may not always be
perfect, but their volunteer efforts represent the best of what we are as a
community.
Some
volunteers are novices, while others offer a finely honed skill. Mark Dimond
said that the thing that he feels proud about is being uniquely useful. “Being
uniquely useful,” that certainly is something worth being proud about. You see
his contributions of printed material are based on his professional experience
working in the printing industry. Similarly, Jim Pemberton worked in the
appliance repair field for forty years. You can bet that we have benefitted from
some of his mechanical know-how. A lot of times people bring with them
particular gifts and skills that no one else could provide. Though I didn’t
talk with her about this Sunday’s topic, I can’t help but mention Helen
Fredrick’s tremendous contribution as our congregational nurse. I can say that
now that my arm has stopped hurting from last week’s flu shot.
In
all of my conversations, I was delighted to hear how eager folks were to do all
that they did. Nearly everyone I talked to spoke about connecting with other
people through their volunteer work. Amy is thrilled when visitors talk about
find the Fellowship through the website and colleen takes the kids to feed the
homeless so they can connect with a different community. Marta talks about
working with people with shared interest. And Paul said that he did what he did
because it was an opportunity to serve others. I found this really striking.
What he gets out of it, is an opportunity
to serve. What a wonderful reminder of what we talk about every Sunday with the
offertory. It is indeed a gift to be able to give. It is a point of connection,
a sacred opportunity to express your love through action.
Another
theme that came up was change. Many of these volunteers have been on the stage
for a very, very long time. Jim talked about the changing technology of our AV
system that he as worked with over the years. Apparently the first system was
purchased at radio shack and was controlled from a box that sat up here next to
the podium. After many different configurations, now, we have high quality
sound and state of the art video that requires a computer to run. Jim said keeping
up with this change was the most challenging thing he has done in his years as
a volunteer. He also said it was the most rewarding. I think that’s very telling.
There is a certain feeling of accomplishment that comes from seeing a project
evolve, and knowing you are a part of it getting better and better. But that
only comes in the long term. You have to stick with the evolution to reap the
benefits of excellence.
But
Jean Paris talked to me about another type of change. I mentioned that for a
long time she had organized the Circle Suppers. She carefully planned who would
bring what dish to every gathering and built a great relationships with
newcomers based on food. This job that was important to Jean, looked pretty
tedious and difficult to me and a few others. So we changed to organization of
Circle Suppers, and did away with her job. We have talked about it and Jean is
fine, but we could have gone about the change in a way that both honored her
gifts and enhanced Circle Suppers. When we make change in the Fellowship, we
have to remember that everyone is invested.
The
final piece of feedback that I got is a very simple one. When I asked Riva why
she did all of this work, her response was, “Why not?” I first read that and
thought it wasn’t a very useful answer. But actually, it’s great. Why not? Why
shouldn’t we assume that everyone will share part of themselves to help build
our community. Why not spend a little extra time with people you care about?
Why not share in the responsibility.
When we transform the question from “why give my time and
energy to the people I care about,” to “Why wouldn’t I spend my time and energy
sharing with the people I care about,” we begin a radical act, we begin to
build the beloved community.
Part
of church, a big part of church is about building a place that is different
from the rest of the world. The community here is based on sharing what you
can. That’s what the financial commitment of pledging is based on, giving what
you can. And we ask the same thing in volunteer hours and skills, bring what
you can to the table.
And
from those plentiful resources, we share evenly among the community gathered. I
want you to hear that this is a radical way of living in the world. It is not
what happens every day. It’s not the way our capitalist economy operates. It’s
not the picture of accumulating personal property and wealth that we see on
television. Participating in our shared ministry is revolutionary. Not just
because of the tremendous contributions that individuals make, the kind that we
have heard of today. Building our shared ministry is revolutionary because it
is different, it is lifesaving, and its living a life that we are called to
live. And we need each other, we need this community to have an opportunity to
do that.
-Amen-
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